May 30, 2008 by Marj Hatzell
Time for a serious post. No! REALLY! I’m SERIOUS! C’mon, I can be serious! Watch!
Today is the day my sister starts her life over. She has been married for a few years and last week her divorce became final. It has been a very difficult and emotional time for her. And her son, Dino Boy. She’s not happy her marriage is over and she certainly didn’t plan on being married and divorced in less than ten years. Needless to say, we’ve all been trying to rally around her and support her (and Dino Boy) as much as we can.
My sister is standing on her own two feet and making her own decisions for the first time in my life. Believe me, she’ll agree when I tell you that she kinda never stood up for herself and her husband basically ran her life. I’m not gonna bad-mouth him (believe me, I want to) because that isn’t productive. But let’s just say that people can only take emotional abuse for so long before they start to believe it. Somehow she snapped out of it and realized that she (and her son) do not need to live with that anymore. She realized she could build a life for the two of them and support herself financially and have a good life. I am proud of her.
No one wants to get divorced, really. I mean, I am sure there are folks that are all, “HEY! I WANNA GET DIVORCED! WOOOHOOO!!!” and I can’t understand that because you get married for a reason. My sister thought she’d be with him for the rest of her life. Stuff happens. More stuff happens. And suddenly life isn’t working out the way you thought it would. And then you have tough decisions to make. And she made ’em. I’m proud of her for taking control and getting out of a really horrible situation. I know divorce is not favorable, but neither is living a life like that. It WILL be better for all of them.
Anyways, do me a favor? Go on over and offer some encouragement? She’s had doubts and panic attacks and “WHAT THE FREAK AM I DOING????” moments. I know it has been an emotional roller coaster for her. She just needs some smiley faces to know she’s got folks in her corner. THANKS!